We’ve all heard the old saying, “I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.” I was born in 1942, so I’ve crossed a few myself. Maybe you’re old enough to have one of those to cross in the near future, or maybe you’re helping someone you love to cross one.
I helped my mother, who passed away at the age of 99, make the transition from aging in place . . . to a senior’s apartment . . . to caregiver support . . . to assisted living . . . to a skilled nursing facility (nursing home) . . . to her final resting place on a scenic bluff of the Wilmington River in Savannah, Georgia. Now I’m faced with many of these decisions myself. So, this is personal for me.
You may be facing the same fears I am — that you may grow old and die alone in a nursing home, run out of money before you die, or not be able to decide your own fate because you’ve lost your mind. I think about these things at least once a week, if not every day. I’m reminded that these are possibilities when my hip starts hurting for no apparent reason and I’m limping around because of it. When I can’t sleep like I used to and wake up with a weird cramp in the side of my calf, I often think about that happening when I’m alone with no one to help or comfort me. If I walk to the kitchen from the living room and can’t remember why I went there when I arrive, I’ll magnify that into a later-in-life nightmare even though it seldom happens now and I can quickly remember.
The internet marketing experts keep telling me that I ought to put my feelings about this in a video. Someday maybe I will. For now, I’m too self-conscious. I don’t look like I used to.
If it would help get my word out, I should do it. I’m passionate about helping Baby Boomers and their children plan for what might be the most important living decisions of their lifetime; so at some point, I’ll video my ugly mug if it will help me reach more people.
So, I hope my blog posts help you in some way. There’s a list of resources here that might be helpful. I wrote a book about all this that you can get for free here. If you don’t find what you need, contact me. I’ll add it and give you a personalized response.