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October 6, 2017

Black and White Thinking Will Paint You Into a Corner in Your Old Age

Black and White Thinking Can Be Destructive

Black and white thinking raises its ugly head throughout our lives. I’m no expert, but I believe this mindset may have killed more than 50 people at a country music festival in Las Vegas. It has been a booger to me at times in my life. Someone close to me may be suffering from this issue now, and my concern for her spurred me to write this post. The gentleman in the graphic below looks like it might be a problem for him as well.

man portrayed as engaged in black and white thinking

What a Mentor Taught Me

One of the best strategies for stopping black and white thinking came to me from someone I can’t even recall now (my memory’s not what it used to be). I’ve used it many times throughout my life and recommended it to some of my friends and family. I even weaved it into a little book I wrote for my grandchildren.

It goes like this: You’re thinking that you’re going to die all alone in a nursing home or . . . your child will never amount to anything or . . . you’re going to run out of money in your retirement. These are all conclusions you have drawn at least partially because of black and white thinking. Surely, some of those conclusions come from experience — someone you know may have died all alone in a nursing home or you may have known someone who did run out of money. If you’re engaged in black and white thinking, though, you might not be able to see gray areas that offer hope in the form of other possibilities or opportunities.

He Told Me to Float

So, my mentor (whom I can’t remember) taught me to float. Yes, I said “float.” Float like Madeline did in The Land of the Mellow Mushrooms.

The next time you’re consumed with negative or despondent thoughts, start floating. Let yourself float from the ground to a point where you can see yourself and your surroundings from tree-height and ponder your circumstances. Let yourself ascend to even greater heights (just above the tallest building in town) and assess your situation again. Take a deep breath and float mountain-high. What do you think about your troubles now?

By the time you have floated into commercial airline lanes your feelings may begin to change. And surely by the time you have floated into outer space, you will see the big picture. Looking down you will see the world around you — maybe even several worlds — and begin to feel that what you thought was “black or white” (and inevitable) might be gray. Maybe there are other possibilities in store; maybe there are other opportunities available to you that will make you happier.

If this sounds silly to you, I get it. The Wright brothers‘ idea sounded silly at one time, too. So take your pick: float or flight. You can do either in your mind. Just look down when you get to the right altitude.

Black and White Thinking Often Leads to Extreme Thinking

In some ways, we become extremists from black and white thinking. Political talk radio leaves little room for compromise, so we’re driven into Republican or Democrat camps. The expectation is that we’re either conservative or liberal. You’re either a Christian or you’re going to burn in Hell. We’re either for something or agin’ it. Was the shooter in Las Vegas taking a stand for something he believed in or was he just plain crazy? We may never know, but the notion that he was suffering from black and white thinking is not far-fetched.

Tensions between what we call black and white people in this country are at an all-time high in my experience. Slavery, hip-hop lyrics, lynchings, NBA salaries, discrimination, so-called black-on-black crime, and “the man” have brought us to this point. Black and white thinking that has less to do with the color of someone’s skin than what people think is right or wrong has been a contributor. I doubt if I will live to see these tensions disappear.

Isis may be the most striking example of extreme thinking in centuries. Do you think these jokers judge others in black and white terms?

Black and white thinking paints you into a corner. It can make you feel like there’s no way out. It can make you feel isolated. And it can make you depressed.

The Last Straw is Depression and Isolation

The depression and isolation in older folks come from real-life circumstances, but part of it comes from thinking patterns over the course of many years. We seem to become embedded in our thoughts about one thing or the other over time, becoming more and more rigid in our opinions of what is right or wrong. We can see these patterns in each other as our friends and neighbors tend to talk about one subject over and over — always on the same side of an issue.

The danger I see in this is that the older we get the narrower our access to reality becomes. We all lose our minds to some degree progressively, and the inability to see the middle ground of possibility and opportunity seems to accelerate the narrowing. The life experience becomes boring and hopelessness sets in.

Contrast this to the elder who has had the ability to see and appreciate the gray areas of life throughout his or her lifetime. This person might be in a wheelchair and confined to a nursing home but still seems to be happy and eager to discover new things.

My Grand Experiment

I’m not a psychologist. Nor do I have any training in human behavior. I’m just an old guy with many of the same experiences you have had, and I struggle with this behavior myself. I feel the temptation to take this easy way out all the time, and I fight it.

There’s a lot to this — much more than what I’ve written about here. So, I’m going to reach out to some real experts to contribute to this post.

I can do that through the internet. I’m a nobody, so they might not respond to me. However, I think it will be a worthwhile experiment. If it works, I’ll keep you posted.

March 4, 2017

Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease Patients Find Solace Here

Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease Respond Well to Reminders

The director of a nursing facility in Dresden, Germany accidentally discovered a way to help patients with dementia and Alzheimer’s disease thrive. He did it by creating a space that reminds residents of their earlier lives in communist East Germany.

old photos are dementia and alzheimer's disease reminders

Décor, memorabilia, and music all contribute to an atmosphere that evokes old East Germany. Residents who once were bedridden and others unable to function well suddenly were cheerful, more engaged, and active after spending time in the space. See the full story at http://bit.ly/2sHRifN.

And while it’s unlikely that your loved ones with dementia will find resonance with communist memorabilia, maybe decorating a room with familiar things — furniture, decorative objects, and vintage cookware and plates — from their younger years could spark something in them and bring some comfort and peace.

How to Create a More Comfortable Space for Your Patients or Loved Ones with Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease

“Granny Pods,” are the latest rage. If you can afford one, or already have one, this is a convenient way to reproduce familiar surroundings.

The typical Granny Pod averages 12 by 24 feet and is comparable to the size of a master bedroom. MEDCottage makes three styles: the MEDCottage Classic, the LivingROO (designed to fit into a garage space) and the MotherShip (designed on an RV platform). Of course, you can build your own or remodel a structure you already have on your property. While you’re at it, you can design it in a style that would remind the occupant of past good times.

While one’s aging parents may like the sense of independence the Granny Pods seem to provide, the independence comes at a price — potential loneliness. If you go that route, make sure you visit.

Decorating for Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease Patients

When you’re already losing your memory, giving up your home of 20-plus years and moving into a new environment can be especially daunting. But whether Mom and Dad move to a Granny Pod or into assisted living, their new home decor can create a more comfortable living environment.

True Doors creates door covers using the image of a door from the patient’s previous house, thereby recreating the look of the front door they knew and loved. The company says its custom door decorations jog the memory of patients and help with orientation, making it easier for them to find their rooms in assisted living facilities where, typically, all doors look the same.

The concept is similar to designs implemented at Lantern care homes in Ohio, where founder Jean Makesh has replicated a small town from the 1940s. The logic is that Alzheimer’s patients may lose recent memories but usually retain recollections from the time they were 21 years old and younger. The nostalgic environment feels familiar to them even as they suffer memory loss.

However You Do It, Make It Memorable

Granny Pods and True Doors are just two ideas for re-creating the past. Other resources like eBay and your local antique markets can be helpful with decorating ideas as well.